You have been going out on a few dates with some person and you have had a wonderful time. You really would like to date this person but for some reason, he or she has not officially asked you out on an official date. Instead, it’s been more like, “Hey let’s go grab a coffee.” or “I’m free on Saturday, want to hang out?”
You might be wondering if you are officially dating or not. The truth of the matter is that you are unofficially dating.
This isn’t something bad it just means that this person likes you but wants to take things slow.
What is a Situationship?
If you are unofficially dating there is a good chance you are in a situationship. A situationship is a relationship where two people are dating but neither of them wants to admit it.
There are usually a lot of mixed signals and the two people involved usually don’t know what to call the relationship.
A situationship is a casual relationship where they might go on dates together but there isn’t a set commitment between the two people involved.
Signs You Are Unofficially Dating
People simply presume that you’re together.
You and this person have been going out on dates together for a while now. Things seem to be going well but you still aren’t sure if this person wants to officially date. Just because this person hasn’t asked you out on an official date doesn’t mean that he or she doesn’t like you or want to be with you.
This person probably just wants to take things slow. This doesn’t mean that the two of you aren’t official though because if other people assume you are together then it is safe to say that the two of you are together.
You are more than friends but not dating.
You have been spending a lot of time with each other and the relationship you have with each other is a lot more than a friendship. You know each other on a deeper level and there is a mutual attraction between the two of you.
They already know your family (and vice versa).
If the person you are unofficially dating has already met your family then it is safe to say that you two are pretty serious. Meeting the family is a huge step in any relationship and it usually means that the two people involved are very serious about each other.
Likewise, if you have already met their family then it means that they trust you and see you as a part of their life.
You’ve met their friends.
Another sign that you are unofficially dating is if the person you are seeing has already introduced you to their friends. This is another huge step in any relationship and it usually means that things are getting serious between the two of you.
It’s ridiculous how much time you both spend together.
If the person you are seeing is constantly by your side then it is safe to say that you are in an unofficial relationship with them. If you are always together then there isn’t much time for anyone else.
This usually happens when two people like each other and they want to spend as much time with each other as possible.
You’re both familiar with one another’s social circles.
If the person you are dating is always around when you go out with your friends then it is safe to say that they are familiar with your social circles. This usually happens when two people are unofficially dating and they are trying to figure out how everyone is going to fit into their relationship.
It can be tough to introduce someone to all of your friends because most of the time they are going to have to meet everyone all at once. That is why people usually wait until things are official before they introduce their partner to everyone.
You text every day but don’t talk on the phone very often.
You might not be talking on the phone every day but you are texting each other a lot. This usually happens when the two people involved are trying to avoid talking on the phone because they don’t want to seem too serious.
Texting is a lot less scary because it is a lot easier to ignore someone’s text message than it is to ignore a phone call.
If you are in an unofficial relationship with someone then you probably text them every day or at least once a week.
You often hang out but aren’t dating exclusively.
You might not be dating this person officially but that doesn’t mean that you don’t see each other very often. The two of you are close and spend time together whenever possible.
The only downside to this type of relationship is that you can’t call it an official relationship. But, if you are okay with not being in an official relationship then this setup works perfectly for you.
They’re always reading your mind.
Ever notice that the person you are seeing is always thinking the same things as you? It almost seems like they can read your mind and they know exactly what you want.
This usually happens when the two of you have been spending a lot of time with each other and there is a definite connection between the two of you.
You know each other’s passwords.
If the person you are dating has your passwords then it is safe to say that you two are in an unofficial relationship. This usually happens when two people are very close and they feel like they can trust each other with anything.
Passwords are a big deal because they represent access to someone’s most personal information. If someone trusts you with their passwords then there is a good chance that they trust you in other ways too.
They’re constantly trying to hang out with you even when they are busy.
If the person you are seeing is always trying to make time for you even though they are busy then it means that they care about your relationship.
This usually happens when the two of you are in an unofficial relationship and the person wants to make sure that they spend as much time with you as possible.
If someone is always trying to hang out with you then it means that they want to be in a relationship with you.
You’re actively looking for reasons to be with them.
If you want to be with this person so badly then it is safe to say that you are looking for any reason that you can find to spend time with them.
This usually happens when the two people involved in the relationship definitely like each other but they aren’t officially dating yet.
People usually look for reasons like this when they are trying to avoid being spotted out in public together. They are afraid that people will assume that they are dating if they see them together.
When you see them with someone else, you become a green-eyed monster.
If you are seeing someone but the second they are seen with another person you get angry then it usually means one of two things. Either, they are interested in someone else or they are trying to avoid being seen out with you because people might think that you’re dating.
This happens when someone does not want to hurt your feelings and they don’t want to make it seem like they are cheating on you.
If you are getting angry when you see this person with someone else then it means that you like them and you don’t want them to be with anyone else.
You’re the nicest and most honest version of yourself around them.
When you are around the person that you like, do you feel like you have to put on a show? Do you feel like you have to be someone that you’re not?
If this is the case then it means that you are trying to impress them. And, if you are trying to impress them then it usually means that you like them.
People usually act differently around the person that they are attracted to. So, if you feel like you have to put on a show then it means that you like the person that you are seeing.
You’re not interested in dating anybody else.
If you are not interested in dating anyone else then it means that you are interested in this person.
This usually happens when the two people involved in the relationship are officially dating. People usually stop looking for other people to date once they have found the person that they want to be with.
If you are not interested in dating other people then it means that you are interested in this person.
It’s hard to imagine life without them.
When you think about your life without this person, does it seem impossible?
This usually happens when the two people involved in the relationship know that they want to be with each other. If you can’t imagine life without them then it means that you do like them and you want to be with them.
If the thought of being without the person you’re seeing is impossible then it means that you could see yourself being with them forever.
They will be a part of most of your plans.
If you are making plans with this person then it means that you like them.
This usually happens when the two people involved in the relationship know they want to be together. People make specific plans if their future will involve this person or if they plan on being with them forever.
How to Make Your Relationship Official When Dating Unofficial
If you’re thinking of dating someone but they aren’t ready to make it official, here are some things that you can do so your relationship feels more official.
If you really like someone and they aren’t officially your girlfriend or boyfriend then just own that fact. Stop trying to come up with excuses for why you don’t want people to know that you’re together. If they feel comfortable enough to be seen out in public with you then let them and don’t try and hide the fact that you’re together.
Make them feel comfortable with the idea of being in the open.
If you want your relationship to be out in the open then seduce them into it! Find ways to make them feel comfortable when you are seen out in public together. Do this by showing them that no one is going to bother them or that no one is going to give them a hard time about being with you.
Do things together.
Do activities that both of you enjoy and take your partner along with you too! If your partner is not interested in doing what you usually do then they might not feel comfortable around the people who usually go with you. Try and find activities that everyone can enjoy. This will make your partner feel more comfortable and it will show them that you want to include them in everything.
Talk about the future.
If you’re looking for a sign that your relationship is getting more serious, then look no further than this! When you start talking about the future with someone, it usually means that you want to be with them for a long time. This is especially true if you start talking about things that you want to do together in the future.
Introduce them to your friends and family.
If you’re thinking of taking your relationship to the next level then this is a sign that you should do it! Introducing someone to your friends and family is a huge step and it means that you want them to be a part of your life.
Spend time with them.
This one is a no-brainer! The more time you spend with someone, the more likely it is that you like them. If you’re not spending time with someone then you’re not interested in them.
Talk about your feelings.
If you want to make your relationship official but you don’t know how then this is the best way to do it! Talking about your feelings is a great way to show your partner that you’re serious about them and that you want to be with them. It also shows that you trust them and that you’re comfortable around them.
This one is a little bit more difficult to do but it’s a sign that your relationship is getting more serious. If you’re getting physical with someone then it means that you’re attracted to them and that you want to be with them. Physical contact is a great way to show someone how you feel about them!
If you’re in a relationship with someone but it’s not official then chances are, you’re not making any plans together. This is because, when you’re unofficial, there is no need to. However, if you want to make your relationship official then this is a sign that you should do it! Making plans means that you’re thinking about the future and it shows that you like someone.
Acknowledge each other in public.
This one is usually easier said than done but it’s worth it! If you want your relationship to be out in the open, then go with it! Acknowledge each other when you’re out in public. Don’t try and hide your feelings for each other because this will come off as weird or even creepy.
So, are you unofficial? If so, there are a few signs you can look for. First, you may be unofficial if your relationship doesn’t have a label. You may also be unofficial if you haven’t introduced your partner to your friends or family. Additionally, if you don’t have any shared finances or property, you’re likely unofficial. Finally, if you’re unsure about the status of your relationship, you may be unofficial!