How To Trick A Narcissist Into Telling The Truth

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They can’t love you, and they don’t even know how to pretend. Their entire life is a total lie! They are not even aware of what love is or that it exists! Just as Hitler was not aware that the Holocaust existed. A narcissist is a dead soul in a dead world, devoid of any humanity! The moment he or she decided to play God, they stepped outside of the infinite stream of life and fell into the confines of their ego-based world, where they continue to live as if it is real—as if there is no other reality besides their demented perfection.

What Makes A Narcissist Lie?

Narcissists lie all day long, every day. Don’t be surprised by it, because to them it is as normal as breathing air. They lie for two reasons: to hide their inadequacies and inflate their ego.

How Does A Narcissist Lie?

A narcissist lies with the intention of self-promotion. Their goal is to make themselves look better in the eyes of others while trying to make their victims look worse. Here’s how they do it:

• A narcissist tries to get attention from everyone by bragging, or telling exaggerated tales about their past. When a narcissist brags, he or she is inflating his ego and bluffing for others. And when they tell exaggerated tales, they are usually making themselves look like the victim or hero.
• A narcissist uses scorn and ridicule to attack anyone who dares to criticize them. They will do everything possible to make their victims look bad, including making up false stories and spreading malicious rumors.
• A narcissist is always trying to one-up everyone. When you talk about your weekend, they will try to top it with their own story of better things that happened to them. Not only do narcissists compete with others in real life, but they also compete online by boasting about their gadgets and social media pages.
• A narcissist will delete all the negative comments on their social media posts, and they will even block anyone who dares to criticize them. They want to create the illusion that they have a perfect life, with no problems or criticisms.
• Narcissists will often make up stories about their victims to make themselves look good. They may falsely accuse their victims of being crazy, stupid, or even child molesters.
• A narcissist will talk behind your back to other people and badmouth you as soon as they have a chance. They will say negative things about their victims to try to gain the sympathy of others. They may also stage public scenes by gathering a crowd and whining about how their victim hurt them.
• A narcissist will often use pity ploys to make you feel sorry for them. They may cry and plead with you to forgive them, even though they have never apologized for their wrongs. They may also try to guilt-trip you by saying things like, “How can you do this to me after all I have done for you?”
• A narcissist will try to disconnect from anyone who will not support them. They do this by turning other people against their victims, or by simply ignoring the victim until they feel lonely and come crawling back. This way, a narcissist can maintain their false image while getting what they want at the same time.
• A narcissist will gaslight their victims by denying that they ever said or did anything bad. They may also try to convince their victims that they are the ones who are crazy and imagining things. This is a common tactic used by abusers to make their victims doubt themselves and question their sanity.
• A narcissist will use triangulation to make their victims feel like they are always competing for attention. They will pit one victim against another, often making the victims doubt their relationships with each other. This way, a narcissist can control their victims by playing them off of each other.

How To Trick A Narcissist Into Telling The Truth

There’s no way to guarantee that a narcissist will tell the truth, even if they swear on their children’s lives. The best way to approach your situation is by using reverse psychology and getting them to admit the truth without them even realizing it. Here are some examples:

• If you’re dealing with someone who always brags, try to get them to talk about their weaknesses. Ask them questions that they can’t easily answer, or make them feel like they’re not as great as they think they are.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always critical, try to flatter them and make them feel important. Compliment their looks, their intelligence, or anything that they may be insecure about.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always lying, try to get them to tell the truth indirectly. Ask them specific questions about their day or their activities. When they answer, probe further and see if their story adds up.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to get sympathy, try to make them feel like they don’t need your sympathy. Ignore their feelings or act uninterested in their stories.
• If you’re dealing with someone who always uses pity ploys, treat them like they are invisible and ignore any attempts at communication. Act busy or do not answer the phone when they call.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to control you, try to be as independent as possible. Do things on your own and make your own decisions. Don’t rely on them for anything.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who is denying everything, try to get them to confess without using any direct questions. Use reverse psychology by always assuming that they are guilty and looking for other explanations.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to convince others of their innocence, try to find out what they’ve been saying behind your back. Get a second opinion or ask someone else if the narcissist has been trying to make them doubt you.
• If you’re dealing with a narcissist who is always playing games, try to get them to stop playing by making them feel bored. Ignore their antics and refuse to participate in any of their games.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to make you feel guilty, try to be indifferent to their problems. Don’t offer any sympathy and don’t act like their problems are more important than yours.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to make you look bad, try to make them look bad instead. Point out their mistakes and highlight the flaws in their arguments.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to make you jealous, try to come across as nonchalant. Don’t give them the attention that they want and focus more on your own life instead of theirs.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who is denying everything, try to get them to admit their guilt without using any direct questions. Use reverse psychology by always assuming that they are guilty and looking for other explanations.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to make others pity them, try to get them to stop feeling sorry for themselves by making them feel ignored or invisible. Things like social media and texting can be great tools to use when trying to change the way someone acts and feels.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who has been lying, try to get them to tell the truth without using any direct questions. Use reverse psychology by assuming that they are guilty and looking for other explanations.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who is always trying to control you, try to be more independent. Do things on your own and make your own decisions. Don’t rely on them for anything.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who is always trying to convince others of their innocence, try to get a second opinion. Ask someone else if the narcissist has been trying to make them doubt you.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who is always playing games, try to get them to stop playing by making them feel bored. Ignore their antics and refuse to participate in any of their games.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who is always trying to make you feel guilty, try to be indifferent. Don’t offer any sympathy and don’t act like their problems are more important than yours.
• If you’re dealing with someone who is always trying to make you look bad, try to highlight the flaws in their arguments. Point out their mistakes and make them look bad instead of you.
• If you’re trying to get a confession from someone who is denying everything, try to make them feel bored. Ignore their antics and refuse to participate in any of their games.

Confronting Narcissists With Their Lies

Denying The Behavior

One of the most common tactics that narcissists use when they are confronted with their lies is to simply deny everything. They will act like they have no idea what you’re talking about and they will often try to change the subject. If you catch them in a lie, it’s important to stay calm and keep pressing them for an answer. You will eventually be able to trick them into admitting the truth if you keep pushing and refuse to let them get away with it.

Minimizing The Behavior

Another tactic that narcissists use when they are caught in a lie is trying to downplay what happened. They will insist that what they did was no big deal and they will try to make you feel like you’re overreacting. If you catch them in a lie, it’s important to be firm and make it clear that you won’t tolerate their behavior. You should also make sure to keep track of all the lies that they have told so that you can confront them with them later on.

Playing The Victim

When narcissists are confronted with their lies, they often try to play the victim instead. They will act like you’re the one who is being mean and unreasonable and they will insist that they are the ones who are being wronged. If you catch them in a lie, it’s important to be firm and make it clear that you won’t tolerate their behavior. You should also make sure to keep track of all the lies that they have told so that you can confront them with them later on.

Using Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a tactic that narcissists use to make you doubt your sanity. They will often gaslight you by denying that they ever said or did anything wrong. If you catch them in a lie, it’s important to be firm and make it clear that you won’t tolerate their behavior. You should also make sure to keep track of all the lies that they have told so that you can confront them with them later on.

Admitting The Behavior

There are times when narcissists will admit to lying to you. They may not give a genuine apology and they may try to make it seem like it was no big deal, but at least you will be able to keep track of all the lies that they have told you. Making a list of these lies can help you figure out what is going on and how serious the situation is.

Can Narcissists Be Honest?  

Many victims of narcissistic abuse ask if narcissists can ever be honest with them. The answer to that question is that narcissists can probably be honest with you about their motives and what they want at any given time, but they will usually lie about everything else. Some people simply cannot handle the truth, especially if it means that they will have to take responsibility for their actions. If you’re trying to get a confession from a narcissist, try to make them feel bored or indifferent. They will be less likely to lie if they don’t think you’re paying attention.

Conclusion

If you’re dealing with a narcissist, it’s important to be aware of the different tactics that they use to get away with their lies. By knowing what to expect, you’ll be better equipped to deal with them effectively. Remember that it’s important to stay calm and keep pressing them for an answer until they finally give in.