No one knows what to do when faced with a crazy wife. What constitutes crazy? Is it screaming and throwing things? Or is it more of an insidious kind of craziness that slowly erodes at your soul over time? How do you deal with a problem like this? Is there even a way to deal with it? These are valid questions that need to be answered.
How to Deal With a Crazy Wife
Keep calm and stay cool
The time-honored adage is true for many things in life, including your crazy wife. If you keep calm and stay cool, there are some things that you can do to make your life easier. The first thing to remember is not to act on impulse (a two-second plan of action) if at all possible. That doesn’t mean being a pushover and letting her walk all over you. Try to come up with a well-thought-out plan before doing anything rash.
Put your foot down
Sometimes, crazy is too much for anybody, and you need to make it known that enough is enough. This doesn’t mean to be a jerk and belittle or berate your wife, and it simply means telling her that you won’t put up with how she is acting. Crazy people don’t like being told they are crazy because it goes against everything they believe in (which is very likely not the truth). You’ll probably see some sparks fly after putting your foot down, but this is where keeping calm and staying cool can be a great asset.
Get out of the house
Crazy people usually need to have everything their way all the time. That means that if you leave for any length of time, she won’t be able to make your life hell since you won’t be around. Crazy people don’t like being contradicted either, so if you leave for a few days, she’ll be more likely to calm down and see reason since there won’t be two of you telling her different things.
Be honest with her
If you are dealing with a crazy person, the normal rules don’t always apply. This means that sometimes you can’t let her walk all over you because she’ll never learn what she’s doing wrong if there aren’t any consequences for stepping over the mark. You also need to be honest with her in this case and not sugarcoat anything because that will lead to problems down the road.
Be ready to lose some arguments
Crazy people have trouble with reality, so sometimes, there is no point in trying to reason with them. It’s just not going to work, and it’s a waste of everybody’s time. The only thing you can do in those situations is to let her have the last word and try to win some battles along the way without fighting a war.
Get her into therapy
There is no shame in having a crazy wife, but there won’t be any peace if you don’t get her help. Therapy can change people’s lives for the better, and it might just work to turn your wife from being a little bit nuts to be a lot fewer nuts. Crazy people don’t like therapy because it is like admitting that they’re crazy and there is no such thing as a crazy person, only misunderstood geniuses.
Crazy people are often bright, interesting people with many good qualities. The keyword here is “often” because this isn’t always the case. You should try to enjoy being around your wife instead of constantly fighting with her about everything you do. Don’t get me wrong, there are many things that your wife can get on your nerves (crazy or not), but if you let little annoyances affect the way you react to them, then they will quickly become bigger annoyances.
Crazy people tend to push other people’s boundaries, so it is a good idea to make sure that your boundaries are crystal clear. This will save you a lot of time and energy in the future when she tries it on with you again and again until she finally crosses the line for good. Crazy people don’t like boundaries because they feel stifled, but you need to lay down the law sometimes to keep your sanity.
Give her some space
Crazy people are often very interesting and intelligent people who can be a great addition to many social circles. However, crazy people also have certain issues that they need to deal with before they become 100% socially acceptable. This doesn’t mean that they are bad people; it just means that they have a bit of an issue with reason and logic. The more time you spend with your crazy wife without giving her the space to work out her issues, the harder it will be for everyone involved.
Focus on the good things
Every relationship will have its ups and downs, and crazy people often bring a lot of downs with them. However, you should always focus on the good aspects of any relationship because there will always be more bad moments than good ones. If your wife is crazy, then the bad moments will outweigh the good by an infinite number of galaxies.
Get a restraining order
Sometimes your wife is more dangerous than other times. If you think that she may physically harm you or the children, then it would be a good idea to get a restraining order. This isn’t something you should do without very serious thought and consideration. Restraining orders can backfire on you if they aren’t used correctly, and the repercussions of misuse can be dire.
Separate yourself from your wife
One of the last resorts in getting rid of a crazy person in your life is to separate yourself from them. This doesn’t mean that you need to get a divorce, but it can be as simple as sleeping in another room when she is around or spending work time out of the house. Separation can also take the form of a separation agreement where certain things are spelled out and delineated so that your crazy ex-wife can’t weasel her way out of them.
Get help for yourself
The last and most important thing to remember is that you need to care for yourself. Crazy people are tough to deal with because they have an uncanny ability to get under your skin if you let them. But when you learn how to deal with them, you’ll find that they aren’t as tough to handle as you once thought.
Signs My Wife Is Crazy
She constantly attacks you with her words
Some crazy people are very good with their words, while others aren’t so much. The important thing to remember is that any attack on your character will put you on the defensive and make you less likely to want to be around her for very long.
She’s constantly criticizing you
Criticism eats away at your self-esteem like termites on a deck. If your wife is constantly criticizing you, then it will make you feel like there isn’t much more to you than what she is seeing at that moment in time.
She makes fun of your friends
A crazy woman can turn into a dangerous animal when she feels threatened by the people you spend time with. Unfortunately, you can’t do much about this because it is your friend, and you will most likely lose touch with them if she keeps pushing them away.
She makes fun of your hobbies
Not everyone is good at everything, but someone who is always making fun of what you enjoy doing doesn’t know they aren’t good at it. This means that you will start to put your hobbies away and stop doing the things that make life interesting.
She tries to control you
People who try to control other people rarely have a good reason for it, which is probably crazy. You can’t let anyone control you because then everything you do will become about what they want instead of what you want.
She says she wants to kill herself
Some people use this to get attention or sympathy when they are angry, but it is also something that crazy people say when they are angry because they don’t have control of their feelings. All in all, if your wife is saying things like this, then you should consider what you can do to get her the help she needs.
She’s always angry at you for something you did
People are only responsible for their actions, which means that if your wife is accusing you of something, then it must be her problem because she won’t take responsibility for it. This can be dangerous if she thinks you are trying to control her because it will worsen the situation.
She tries to control your friends and/or family
If she is constantly trying to control her friends and/or family members, then it means that she has a problem with being out of control. This can be dangerous because most people aren’t put up with their daughter dating someone they don’t approve of or the same thing with a son’s wife. In this case, you will wind up losing your family and friends.
She’s threatened to physically harm you more than once
Crazy people don’t like to be told no or take no for an answer, which means that if she is making threats like this, you should make it a point to get rid of her before something bad happens. No one deserves to feel threatened in their own home.
She abuses substances
Some crazy people are substance abusers, which means they won’t be in the right state of mind to think about what is going on. This can lead to someone giving you an ultimatum or trying to get you back with some kind of crazy stunt, so it’s a good idea to avoid these people until they can clean up their act.
You’re often ignored and gaslighted
Being ignored and gaslighted by someone should be a sign that they aren’t mentally well, which means that you won’t make the relationship work until she gets the help she needs. You can’t force her into getting better because it will only worsen the situation.
She undermines your authority in front of your kids
Parents need to have authority in front of their children, which means that if she undermines your authority, you will have a hard time being respected by your kids. They will look up to their mom more than they do you because she is always putting them first.
This article has provided you with some great advice on dealing with a crazy wife. If you follow these tips and ideas, your life will be much more enjoyable!